Listen to the voice of reason

Being a parent poses many challenges. But through these challenges, I have learnt countless things. Among others, parenthood has made me learn how to survive on only 2-3 hours of interrupted sleep at night, how to eat things really quickly, specifically to feed myself and my kid at the same time and how to maintain a balanced family life. Parenthood has also made me a more tolerant person. I have to keep my cool at all times… okay, at MOST times. But I have to admit that it is an ongoing learning process, and I hope to better myself day after day. Ethan is already a toddler now and judging by his personality and behaviour, I know for a fact that I will have to face the issue of disciplining him soon. Like *really* soon.

There are so many methods of disciplining a child nowadays, and I think some methods work better on certain kids, more so than others. My good girl friend told me that she eventually had to use the cane on her son although she thought she wouldn’t have to initially. I sure do not want a repeat of what she went through. So when Jacelyn asked what my plan for disciplining kids is, I can certainly say that I do not intend to use the cane, preferring instead to use reason. Well, I might be forced to change my mind in future, but at this moment, this is what I am feeling. I am hoping that by the time Ethan learns how to communicate effectively with my hubby and me, we would be able to instill some form of discipline through reasoning and understanding. Threatening to use the cane and not following through on that threat is meaningless, so that option is totally out for me. As far as I am concerned, my ultimate priority would be to be firm and make my child understand and realize what he did was wrong, and to ensure he knows I was not happy with what he did. I would probably utilize the Super Nanny approved toddler “time out” chair method to make my child reflect on what he did, to learn the meaning of “sorry” and to promise never to do it again.


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I’m wondering if Paik Ling shares my sentiments…

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1. Miche does not spare the rod.
2. Msaufong spare the rod but not the VOICE.
3. Lemonjude reasonably spare the rod.
4. Shoppingmum spares the rod.
5. MummyInVain does not think of sparing the rod.
6. Giddy Tiger believes in disciplining with reasoning.

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8 Responses to Listen to the voice of reason

  1. LB says:

    Oh yes!! The Chinese Water Torture Method always works! I’ve seen it on movies in James Bond, Harry Potter, Star Trek, etc!!

    The Giddy Tiger says: Huh? What’s that???

  2. may says:

    my mum used to rotan me… LOL! I guess a little corporal punishment. or even Chinese Water Torture Method, never hurt anyone if it’s used carefully.

    The Giddy Tigress says: Seriously? And you can remember it still…but what is this torture method la?

  3. Adino says:

    You know, I actually trained my dog without ever once hitting him. I’m waiting to see if this works on a child (I don’t think so) so I’m quite prepared to rotan now and then.

    The Giddy Tiger says: I would love to meet your dog, Adino. I love dogs!

  4. Adino says:

    Btw Chinese Water Torture is forcing someone to drink lots of water and then compressing their abdomen either by stepping on them or something. I could be wrong la… I didn’t spend time wiki-ing the term.

    The Giddy Tiger says: That sounds gross and highly painful!

  5. rinnah says:

    Ha, my mum used the ECL 3 finger method with me and if she got to three, I was in for a caning! Hahaha. But I think I turned out pretty good, eh?

    The Giddy Tigress says: Yup, you certainly did…. 🙂

  6. Paik Ling says:

    thanks for the present…will try to get down to it this weekend

    The Giddy Tiger says: It was my pleasure!

  7. Most important is being consistent and following through.Otherwise you confuse the child. Yelling only teaches them to yell. I learned that the hard way.

    The Giddy Tigress says: Yes, we definitely must remember NOT to yell.

  8. Paik Ling says:

    Done babe. Sorry for the delay!
    http://pakumuse.blogspot.com/2007/12/tag-toughest-job-of-all.html

    The Giddy Tiger says: Thanks for being a sport!

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