Hypocrisy (or being a hypocrite) is the act of opposing or not purporting a belief or behaviour while holding the same beliefs or behaviours at the same time, or vice versa.
(source: Wikipedia)
Some hypocrites are friends in disguise, or rather some friends are hypocrites in disguise. Is there a difference though? In my opinion, the latter is more lethal in nature, because the pain is harder to bear. Some people indulge in pretend play, but viciously stab you in the back in a manner that hurts tremendously. The betrayal is the part that gets me the most. Do you grin and bear it? Do you retaliate? Do you give them the benefit of the doubt, because you know, perhaps they really don’t know what they are doing?
I detest hypocrites immensely. Don’t you?
I had a conversation with God and He says “Forgive them, for you know I forgave you first.” And I am trying my best to, I really am.
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I forgave & then I moved on because I don’t want to be back in square one of having to deal with their hypocrisy again.. *regardless of what the Good Lord said to me*
The Giddy Tigress says: The forgiving part is the hardest, don’t you think so?
I don’t forgive nor forget… I retaliate. They hurt me I hurt them back 3 times. Who asks them to start it?
The Giddy Tigress says: Wah… *makes mental note to never ever step on ecl’s tail*…. as if I don’t know that already!
I went through lots of soul searching too. In the end, I chose to forgive (in a manner of speaking) but not to forget.
The Giddy Tigress says: I guess that’s what I normally would do. I tend to hold grudges.
Machines have less problems. I’d like to be a machine, wouldn’t you? (Andy Warhol)
The Giddy Tigress says: *in horror* No, I would not like to be a machine! Have you gone nuts after eating those rum balls yesterday? *grins*
it’s so easy to hate, and difficult to love it’s not even funny. sometimes all we need is that extra effort to be nice, but sometimes it seems almost impossible. oh well. humans. 🙂
The Giddy Tigress says: Most of the time, although we realize how important it is to just step back and look at the whole picture, the reality is such that we feel non-love initially.
Yeah, unfortunately, I am neither here nor there. Sometimes, I forgive, and forget, other times, I forgive, but not forget, or forget but not forgive, and even worse, forget and forgive!! Now, which of these evils are the lesser? *grin*
The Giddy Tigress says: I’m too confused to comment… 😛
oops, typo there already.. that last bit was NEVER forgive NOR forget!
The Giddy Tigress says: Oh yeah, this clarification kinda makes your comment clearer…like mud-clear. heh.
I am confused after reading LB’s comment… Lawl.
I have a lot of problems forgiving people who hurt me and generally even after I do, I don’t forget. Not good for my pysche, but I can’t seem to make myself let go.
Hope all is right in your world and that you are okay.
Hugs, rinnah
The Giddy Tigress says: So am I…confused, that is. He has the gift to confuse people with his words. I guess I have the same forgiving and not forgetting problem like you. Thanks for the concern and hugs dearie…just my way of getting it off my chest, albeit in a not-so-subtle manner. SIGH
I feel much better after I forgive. Don’t get me wrong, I can really swear when somebody do any kind of injustices towards me or my family and my love ones. After swearing, then it is time to forgive. 🙂
The Giddy Tigress says: Forgiveness does that to us all the time. I don’t swear but if you really really make me angry, I just might. But forgiveness heals everything. That’s what God taught us.
I usually just avoid such people and let God judge them. Too bad lah for them if they want to behave this way.
The Giddy Tigress says: Your suggestion is a good one. 🙂
yes, it’s hard to tell who is our friend and who is not in this world. But I just do my best to be the best I can be – for myself. I try not to rely too much on ‘friends’ or to have high expectations, because at the end of the day, it’s just easier to rely on oneself! But of course, must still be forgiving and kind – must avoid falling into the ‘cynical’ trap.
Good luck!
The Giddy Tigress says: You are so right. Some *friends* appear to be friends on the outside but behind your back, they are really really not.
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I can’t help agreeing with Paik Ling. That’s what I’ll do too, stop mingling with them. Coz once hurt, it’s really hard to forget even though we have forgiven them.
The Giddy Tigress says: True…thanks for your insight.